I recently had an kinda funny though sadly familiar encounter. While out one evening, I met a friend of a friend who felt it was their opportunity, Nay! their duty to open my eyes to the futility of feminism and the fact that it was a dead ideal in today’s society. Now at this stage in my life, I can spot a Mansplainer a mile away and I am well used to the arguments and reasoning served up to ‘educate and enlighten’ me on my ‘disillusioned lost road’. I’m not a feminist to argue with anyone, I’m a feminist because I believe in balance. I’m a feminist because I believe in equality in opportunities and life for all genders, all ages, all creeds. There is no argument that can sway me from these beliefs.
So, as the discussion or banter progressed, the usual arguments came forth – the Constitution doesn’t effect us regular people on the ground, Women are treated equally now – feminism as a movement is dead and gone… the Brogressive attitude became the forerunner for a while but it was pushed back a bit by the ‘You’re not doing yourself any favours’ bit. I have to admit I found myself rising to the argument slightly then I thought to myself…what the hell am I doing? This isn’t an exchange of ideas here… I am being told what I should be thinking and there’s no opening for discussion. So I smiled a little, I re-iterated again and again that I didn’t agree and smiled again at the gleeful cry with clapping hands ‘I love a good argument!’.
One thing that was said struck me, however, I was asked which person was more valuable to society – Bill Gates or the person sitting in front of me? My answer was both are of equal value and I truly believe that. He felt he had triumphed in this perceived failure on my part ‘No…not at all… Bill Gates is more valuable because of his wealth and influence…I don’t have those. I see things as they truly are’
I would argue that his view is clouded by perceptions of value based on material value and what comes with it. No matter the roles we play in life, professionallly or personally, we are all just people at the end of the day. And until we learn to value each and every person for the human being they are, there will be no balance.